6 Years of undergrad, 5 colleges, 3 majors & 0 ideas of what I wanted to do…

I have had a lot on my mind lately. This post is kind of lengthy but please stay with me. In the past six months or so, I have completely changed my career route. So far, everything has been going great! I didn’t realize the only thing that was holding me back from doing what I wanted to do was me! But it wasn’t that easy to realize! 

fc,550x550,royal_blue.u5I have attended five different universities, changed my major about three times and knew zero about what I truly wanted to do. While working in the hair salon with my mom since I was twelve I figured I would just go to cosmetology school and figure it out from there. I was putting limitations on myself without realizing it. When I finally made the decision to attend cosmetology school after graduation, I didn’t even have a true date set for graduation. Whenever someone asked me when I was going to be done, my answer was probably different every time. Lol, I was at a point where I was just tired of people asking me what I was going to do. In my mind, I finally had a response for my family, for my mom’s clients, and myself. But this Summer of 2015, something in me switched on.
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Pretty sure God gives me daily back massages…..

So my parents got married at the delicate age of 18, all my aunts and uncles were also married in their fairly early twenties. So growing up I would always say that I need to be married by 23 and have all my kids before the age of 30…let me just take this time to say, HAHAHAHAHAHA! YEA RIGHT GIRL!

I literally believed this NEEDED to happen until I turned 21 and woke the heck up to the reality that this fantasy is not my reality.

Growing up as a young Christian woman you would often hear things like you need to pray for your husband in detail. Tell God what you want and He will give you the desires of your heart. So this is what I did, I got my journal and wrote out a five-page entry on all the things I wanted in my husband and constantly asked God if could I add at least one thing every day! lol

Long story not so short, I have been in a relationship for one year now. He is such a great guy! He is so smart, gives great advice, I can talk to him about anything, he respects me, his relationship with God is growing, I love his family, he has a great job, his own condo, a nice car and gets me anything I need if he is able to! But because I was so obsessed with “the one” and “my list” I tried to squeeze him into this cookie cutter box that I carved out. I began nagging him on all the things that irritated me, I started judging his lifestyle, asking annoying questions I knew the answer to, trying to make him into the man I wanted and not the man God wanted for me.

man I was annoying…

One day I was talking to a wise lady who I love and who also goes to my church. I was just telling her that I was so unsure about him and that he does this, and how he does that… she let me go on for about 5 minutes before she asked me one thing that changed my views on not only my relationship but how I view my faith walk all together. She asked me, “Now what makes you think God is going to leave you hanging?!” I sat there looking looking crazy! She began to tell me that God is not going to save His best for everyone but me but He is saving his best especially FOR ME. God knows the desires of my heart and the fact that I was stressing out was normal, but not necessary.

From that point on I have calmed down, If this is God’s best for me then I don’t have to put my hands in it. I don’t have to try to fix things to fit in my little box. Why would I pray everyday for God’s best for me if I am just going to look for what was best for Yellie?…crazy right?

So where is my relationship ndownload (3)ow? Honestly its never been better. Instead of nagging him, I prayed to God as well as talking to Mike about the things that bothered me and even told him about the talk I had. He told me things that he would work on and even asked me if I could work on a few things.(Like what? yea I said the same thing! 😉 ) Me and Mike are not married, or engaged (yet.. o_o) but one thing I pray is that God will not only send me my best, but His best for Mike, and I can only hope that His best is me.

So If you are confused about your relationship, hate your job or having financial troubles….just know that God is not going to leave you hanging. Easier said than done obviously but you have to continue to trust Him and his plans for you, I can’t see the future of my relationship but I am going to trust that His plans for me are so much more than what I see.

Now go and get that back rub from God, I know you’ve been needing it.

For I know the plans I have for you. Jeremiah 29:11 =)

#SYGS

SOMETIMES YOU GOTTA SWITCH! (SYGS)switch beyonceI would like to start this blog post out by saying…WERK BEY!!

Moving on…..

I came up with SYGS one day when I was at work and feeling like the ugliest person in the world! My hair was not done, I had on leggings, a t-shirt and the same pair of boots I was wearing all winter long. This was like day 9 with this same type of outfit. I was bloated, on top of being depressed that for the first time I had weighed over 150 pounds. I was stressed out about school tuition being paid in time and my advisor who wasn’t helping me much as far as my classes go was stressing me out as well. It was just a few months that I walked around without doing my hair, I didn’t put on any makeup or even matching socks!

wait…I never put on matching socks o_O….

any who, I was just really feeling down about myself.

So this one particular day at work my mom asked me what was wrong with me and why have I been looking so down. I stared at her for a second trying to come up with a reason that would get her off my back, but I just burst into tears. I felt sofreaking ugly! There was so much going on and I was letting what was going on in the inside of me reflect on the outside, and that should never be the case. So after I gave my mom this dramatic schpill about how stressed out I was, you know what she did?

SHE LAUGHED AT ME! I mean she just sat there and laughed and could not believe the reason I was crying was because I felt ugly. So after trying to keep producing tears to convince my mom that I was serious, I gave up and started cracking up with her. We sat there laughing at me for a good 5 minutes! smh. After we both stopped laughing my mom said, “GET YOURSELF TOGETHER GIRL, YOU ARE MY CHILD AND YOU ARE NOT ABOUT TO WALK AROUND LIKE THAT!” She came over to me, gave me a hug and fixed my hair, she then told me to put on some lipgloss or something.

In that moment, I knew that I had to pull it together. No matter what my mom is going through she ALWAYS looks good. Not a day goes by when she doesn’t have on her heels, her hair done and a little makeup. Not saying that is what I have to do but it isn’t good to let your outside reflect what is going on in the inside. You have to walk through each day like you got this so that everything else will line up in your life! Once you take control everything else will have no choice but to get in order. No matter how bad it is KNOW that it will get better.

So, I got myself together and felt I had to make a PSA!

I got on snapchat and recorded myself switching. I didn’t care how I was feeling and i didn’t care who saw me! I then posted that video to IG and made the hashtag #SometimesYouGottaSwitch! SYGS when everything seems to be going wrong. Though it may not make your problems go way but it is a symbol for you being in control of your own life that your living! It’s taking a stand that you can do what you want to do, no matter who or what sees you!

Whether your walking to the shower, your car, into work, to the gas station pump you go ahead a switch those hips today! Take control of you life!

Record yourself using hashtag #SYGS and follow and tag me @yellyellcoolJ!

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Proud Middle Child Syndrome (MCS) Advocate!

I have two sisters. Kristen, my oldest sister and Nia my little sister. Which leaves me where? Some where, where I don’t get everything Kristen got and some where, where Nia gets whatever she wants; aka land of middle child syndrome. Incase you do not know what middle child syndrome is, here is a link….

ill wait…Click here if Clueless about MCS

Informed? GREAT! Now let’s get to it!

Here are the top 2 MCS events that took place in my life that I am still trying to get over…bare with me, it might get lengthy due to my salt…

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Why Yell Out Loud?

Hello readers…..

So my name is Danielle, as some already know but I am affectionately known as Yellie. All my life people would ask me if I was called this because I yell a lot, or if I have a loud mouth , and do I never shut up? Well….if you ask my mom, she will tell you that Yellie came from my first name Danielle, (Dan-Yell) and that I have been called this since I was a baby. Welp…turns out somebody was right on track because according to my great-grandma Mimms, all I did was scream and cry. Cry-baby Yellie turned into a silly, loud mouth little girl. (According to home videos) and silly, loud-mouth little girl turned into a very loud, outspoken, socially awkward pre-teen….but loud, outspoken socially awkward pre-teen turned into a very quiet, secretive, shy, to-myself, insecure, teenager. From there, I carried it over into high school, never revealing what was really going on in my life to anyone. To my family, yes I was, and still am silly, life of the party Yellie, but Continue reading →